Looking
for summer plans for your teen? Consider the many benefits of
volunteerism—preteens and teens are an untapped resource. Don’t be
intimidated by the fact that they groan when they do chores at home.
Kids are more likely to agree to help a cause than to clean their
rooms! Use these suggestions to begin a tradition of volunteerism with
your teenager:
- Do your homework first. Call
the local volunteer center, place of worship, nursing home, etc. and
gather ideas about what your teen would be permitted to do. Look for
events that involve fundraising in the form of relays or walk-a-thons.
Novelty is key in this experience for the teens. Explain to the
volunteer coordinators that this will be a one-time commitment to help
the teens sample different volunteer activities.
- Gather some friends. Pitch
the idea with your teen and encourage him or her to invite friends to
come along. Make sure you have information about the work sites to give
to the parents of each volunteer. Encourage the kids to name their
volunteering team—a team color or specialized T-shirt helps build group
unity and visibility for you while you supervise their work.
- Determine frequency. Initially,
you might want to schedule volunteering once every two weeks. Develop a
communication network that includes the parents of your volunteers and
have all the teens meet at the work site.
- Set some ground rules before they work. Keep
your list simple and positive. Safety first and foremost. Remind them
that they are representing their school, their families, and all teens.
The team has an opportunity to influence the way in which people
experience teenagers. This is a big selling point—just ask the kids
about the age discrimination they have already encountered.
- Be prepared to work too! This
is not a summer activity where you drop off and drive away. To maximize
the benefits, stay to process the activity with the kids. In the teens’
presence, speak to the person in charge about the people the
organization serves and how volunteers help them. While the kids are
working, look for opportunities to ask about how it is going and what
they like and dislike. Don’t lecture or sermonize, let the reward of
work speak for itself.
- Consider logging their hours. Community
service speaks well of your teen and their friends. Keep track of
individual hours and the hours of the group. If it looks like the group
is really enjoying this summer activity, ask if they want to extend it
into the school year. Change the frequency to once a month so it isn’t
hard to fit into their schedules. Presidential service awards are an
added bonus—check out presidentialserviceawards.gov for information on
this program.
- Enjoy the ride. You
will find that once you get started building a volunteer service team,
it is easy to maintain and the benefits are ongoing. Developing a habit
of service is a great way to influence the character of your kids. Best
of luck in helping your teen to help others!
Dr. Lisa Marotta is
a licensed Clinical/School Psychologist in private practice within the
Offices of Paul Tobin and Ann Benjamin. She works primarily with young
children and their families, and facilitates groups for building social
skills and preparing for middle school.
Posted on
Saturday, September 5, 2009
by st